Well, congratulations, you confirmed one thing with your little written tirade, and it isn't that you're the victim & deserve sympathy. It's that if your partner was struggling with whether or not to let you go, he/she should be sure now if they happened to read that. You've labeled this person a liar when you need to learn there is a difference between loving someone & being compatible with someone. Both have to be present to maintain a healthy relationship. The sooner you give some serious thought to this & come to terms with your own responsibility, the sooner you will be able to heal & try again with someone else that is hopefully more compatible. Sometimes that takes time to figure out. Love is not enough. So your partner beat you to the punch & you found yourself in the dumped role rather than the dump-ee. That certainly sucks, but you were a full half of the equation. You are not doing yourself any justice, & I'm sorry, but I for one am not convinced your partner was the evil villian you have made him/her out to be. I feel bad for your former partner, but somehow, I think that person is glad you are gone. I would be.